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A Love Story: What Have You Been Resisting Lately?










This article is from my MONTHLY LOVE LETTER where I share my experiences and ideas around taking a slower, more natural approach to taking intentional action, prioritizing our energy, embodying values, experimenting with new ways of working, and upgrading our mindset. And who knows what else! If you are a Curious Individual, Creative Entrepreneur or are part of a Conscious Company and are interested to explore new possibilities for showing up with more ease within your work and life, I invite you to reach out to learn how I can support you through personalized coaching or customized collaborative experiences.

With any invitation or desire to experience something new in our lives, comes the possibility for change. Change can be a scary thing because our subconscious mind and our body want to protect us and keep us safe. When they are not sure of the outcome… even if it is a good thing for us… it can lead to a freakout or fear to roar its head. Lately, I’ve found myself in a peculiar battle with resistance. I’ve been actively striving to let go of self-sabotage, to expand my comfort zone, and to sit with the relentless whispers of FOMO (the fear of missing out). This journey has been an enlightening one, revealing my innermost fears and insecurities while inviting me to explore the uncharted territory of nurturing my inner child in new ways than I have before. FOMO, the ever-persistent companion, manifested itself as a constant reminder of the opportunities I might be missing. It whispered in my ear, “Why aren’t you doing this”, “What have you been doing all this time”… bringing me to a place of self-doubt and increased sensitivity to the growth of my peers. But what I didn’t realize right away was that this FOMO was what was keeping me so on edge and hyper-vigilant all these years… alert to the world’s offerings… trying to force opportunity that wasn’t even aligned with my own personal desires… in the pursuit to ensure that I didn’t miss out on something incredible… even if it wasn’t for me. I realized this was a reflection of a deeper, lifelong fear that had been etched into my subconscious–the fear of missing out on life’s potential wonders because of a simple moment in my childhood when I experienced this same feeling for the very first time.

What I’ve learned most in my own journey of self-discovery and in supporting others through their own, is that no event is too small to play a significant role in how our beliefs are shaped. This is why inner child work is sooooo incredible for giving us that space to connect to our inner child… to listen to the voice of that inner child who is still guiding our behaviours, choices, and emotions… so that we can offer them the support that they needed during that moment of significance. and driving my anxieties for as long as I can remember. Through my own hypnosis practice, I found myself face to face with my younger self–the one who believed that she could miss out on everything that mattered if she simply stopped to enjoy the beauty that was already happening in the moment. As I connected with my inner child, I saw the vulnerability and the wounds that had led to this constant state of hyper-vigilance. The fear of missing out was, in essence, a way for her to protect me, to ensure that I didn’t miss out on any opportunities that could make me happy. It was her way of guarding my heart. In that moment of connection, I held my inner child close and reassured her that she was safe. I told her that I was here to protect her, that we would make decisions together, and that she need not worry about missing anything. In fact, this reinforced the mantra I had been toying with for some time… that “I can’t miss anything that’s for me.” And for the first time I truly, truly believe that. This realization has been a profound shift in my perspective. It allowed me to break free from the shackles of FOMO that I didn’t realize was stopping me from letting go of the self-sabotaging habits that had held me back for so long. I trust more and more that every opportunity, every moment, and every experience is tailored to my unique journey, and there is no need to chase after everything that presents itself.

It just shows that we never stop growing, unpacking, and embracing the hard and beautiful parts of ourselves.

It has brought me to a place right here right now where I am learning to trust in the journey in a whole new way… to embrace the present in a whole new way…

My inner child thanks me, and is happy I took some time to spend with her. And the best part is that inner child work is never done, we get to visit our inner child… in whole new ways!

This journey continues but with a newfound sense of purpose and self-assuredness. I am ready to let go of resistance, welcome growth, and live life on my own terms, knowing that I cannot miss anything that is not meant for me.

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